Comments on: Be a Man About It: Get What You Want With Integrity

By: Michael

Michael — Fri, 08 Jul 2011 23:12:43 +0000

Good stuff, Zeke. Your father obviously taught you well.

By: Zeke

Zeke — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 17:39:16 +0000

Most self-proclaimed “alpha males” are just narcissists with bad manners, morals, & behaviors. There are very few REAL alpha males, and more often than not they are in complete control of their thoughts & actions. That’s what makes them ABLE to act in alpha manner. Wanna-be alphas are the most irritating guys anywhere – ask any woman who has to work for one, is married to one, or is hit on by one at bars or health clubs. It’s the fake alphas who give us men a bad name……

By: Zeke

Zeke — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 17:35:40 +0000

Simple proverb to CONSISTENTLY follow & you’ll NEVER go wrong -

“Do unto others as you’d want them to do to you.”

The one who gets emotional first usually loses in a REAL negotiation – I’ve seen this repeatedly in both personal & professional life.

My Dad taught me this repeately as a kid. Several times I saw salesclerks, store managers, car dealers, etc. eventually lose their calm, their stance, their position, and eventually give my Dad what he RIGHTFULLY was asking. They knew all along his requests were reasonable and eventually figured out they were being unreasonable in enforcing a position which may or may not be store “policy”.

In the end, 99% of the times I viewed his dealings, my Dad got his way without raising his voice or breaking a sweat. On the other hand, he did NOT pursue more than was fair or appropriate since that would be stealing, and may actually have jeopardized getting what was fair & reasonable to expect.

In the end principle triumphs over pettiness, even if you DON’T get your way. Better to be able to look yourself in the mirror the next day knowing you didn’t violate your principles in trying to get your way. However, if your principles are whacked, that’s a different topic altogether, so this assumes you’re a decent, high-functioning, non-psychopathic human being. If it’s stuff you’re after, remember it’s only just stuff, and is not the essence of life anyway……

By: Michael

Michael — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 02:20:31 +0000

Thanks Alex. Too true—there are guys who feel they need to show they’re the “alpha male” but don’t get the part where people look up to you. Standing on others’ shoulders gets you higher than stepping on others’ feet. (Maybe I should send that one to Gary Busey.)

By: Alex Kay

Alex Kay — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 11:29:36 +0000

You really nail it here Michael. I like this post. It is not uncommon for me to see a guy who’s real good with the ladies, charming and all, but when some guy with ‘perceived lower social status’ comes over to ask something or the like, he turns into an arrogant prick. Another example is if someone spills a drink over this guy (unintentionally)… The faker will almost always become furious, while the real man of integrity will try to help take off some of the man or woman who spilled the drink’s bad consciousness.

Take care!
Alex