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According to the Harvard Medical School, coffee can lower your risk of cancer, diabetes and Parkinson’s Disease.

According to me, it’s a morning ritual that can help you reflect on the day to come, and it tastes incredible—that is, when you combine the beans and water just right.

I’ve consumed buckets of coffee made with different methods, from French press to espresso to Denny’s drip to the massively overpriced (sorry) single-cup “pod” coffeemakers, and if that doesn’t make me an expert, I don’t know what does. My current go-to method of starting my day is also my favorite: the humble pour-over.

In the very first Tao of Bachelorhood video (be gentle with me), I demonstrate the method for creating the perfect cup:

Here’s how to get that elusive perfect cup:

  1. Start with cold, fresh water, filtered if you live in an area without naturally clean water. Bring it to a boil.
  2. Use whole beans and a grinder, which offer far more flavor than a pre-ground bag of coffee. (And if you’re using a plastic tub of Maxwell House…why?)
  3. Place the filter basket on top of your mug and insert a #4 Melitta filter in the basket.
  4. Start with a heaping teaspoon of whole beans for every cup of water. (Most mugs will require at least two scoops.)
  5. Around the time your water is ready to boil, grind your beans and pour them into the filter. The finer you grind, the stronger your coffee will be.
  6. With your water just off the boil (around 190-200 degrees F), fill the filter up as high as you can (without overflowing your cup).
  7. Stir! Keep stirring until about 2/3 of the water has run into your cup.
  8. Wait!
  9. When the filter is completely drained, remove it and drink up!

You may need to adjust the roast, brand and amount of coffee, the coarseness of grind and the water temperature, but with some fine tuning I think you’ll agree this is the best way to get a consistently delicious, rich cup of coffee. You may even become a coffee snob yourself.

How to Make a Perfect Cup of Coffee [YouTube]

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The American Memorial Day weekend is the traditional start to the summer, and men everywhere are dragging out the grill and stocking up on thick T-bone steaks. The sad fact is that the vast majority of those incredible slabs of meat will turn out dry and lacking in flavor.

Grilling a tasty, healthy steak is one of the Man Skills I’ve written about before. With a little care and preparation, you can enjoy the best steak you’ve ever had.

Buy the Best Cut

There’s a lot of confusion over just which cuts of beef are best for grilling. Some say tenderloin and filet mignon are best, but the fact is that while they’re the most tender cuts on the cow, they’re not the most flavorful. Others will direct you to the cheaper cuts, like flank or hanger. However, your tradeoff for flavor is tenderness, and you’ll have to marinate them and make sure not to cook them past medium rare for best chewability.

The cut with the single best balance of tenderness and flavor is the ribeye. However, a marbling of fat goes with that, so make sure you eat it on your cheat day. The ribeye is also the most expensive cut on the cow. If cost or fat content is a factor, grab yourself a nice top sirloin. Once again, you’ll want to cook a sirloin fairly rare, but it’s flavorful and inexpensive. In the middle between the two is the New York cut, with the marbling of a loin steak (it’s from the loin) and a little more flavor.

Pick up your steak at least a day or two before you’re going to grill it. Buy your steak freshly cut from a butcher and not in the Styrofoam packages at the supermarket. Your cut will ideally will have a ring of fat around the edge (trim it off when the steak is ready to eat – it helps hold the juices in when cooking). Get yourself grass-fed beef if possible—it’s healthier and tastier than feed-lot beef and the cow had a better life too.

The best thickness for grilling is between 1 and 1-1/2 inches. Steaks that are too thick may require oven-baking after you sear them on the grill, unless you like them rare.

Prep the Meat

No matter what cut you buy, it’ll taste better with a little forethought. A few simple steps can make or break your steak:

  1. When you get the meat home, take it out of the butcher paper and put it in the fridge, on a plate and wrapped in a paper towel to draw moisture out of the meat. You can do this for up to four days before grilling—change the paper towel if it gets too bloody.
  2. Take the meat out of the fridge at least 30 minutes before you put it on the grill. The closer it is to room temperature, the better it will cook.
  3. Use a simple rub to season your steak. Coat your steak in just enough oil so the ingredients stick (any oil with a high “smoke point” will do: vegetable, seed, light olive oil—extra-virgin smokes too soon), then rub some sea salt and fresh ground pepper into the meat. I use a little cayenne myself to give it a slight kick.
  4. Get that grill hot! The goal is to sear the steak as quickly as possible to lock in the juices, and the hotter the grill, the better it will sear.

The great gas vs. charcoal debate is really not that big an element in the flavor of the meat. Instead, let your pocketbook and ability to keep the grill clean determine your tool of choice. That said, charcoal grills can get hotter than gas, so if you’re torn, that’s the single best reason to go with charcoal.

Finally, the Grill

Now you’re ready to cook the thing. Believe it or not, you’ve reached the easiest part of the whole production.

  1. Put the steak on the hot grill.
  2. Now leave it alone. No poking, prodding, checking the grill lines on the bottom, and never, ever, cut into the steak to check the color.
  3. After 4 to 5 minutes, turn it over with tongs or a spatula, not that giant sharp fork that came with the grill.
  4. Continue to leave it alone, about 4-5 minutes for rare, 6-8 minutes for medium-rare, and 10 minutes for medium. Grills can vary—this is a good reason to practice!
  5. Instead of cutting the meat, check it for doneness with your finger. The more thoroughly cooked the meat, the firmer it will be.
  6. Remove the steak from the grill and put it in aluminum foil to rest for 5-10 minutes. Guard it, and explain to your hungry friends that it’s for their own good. If you cut into a steak before it has properly rested, its juices (and flavor) will run out all over the plate and all your careful preparation will be ruined.

There are a world of steak cuts and different rubs and marinades you can use. Experiment and practice. If you master the art of preparing the perfect steak, you’ll soon find no summer weekend will go by without an invite to a barbecue. (Don’t forget a cool, healthy salad!)

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Ultimate Spring Cleaning is Back for 2011!

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Forget the groundhog or the solstice. Baseball’s opening day signaled another spring is upon us, and as the days grow longer, we start thinking about getting the winter funk dealt with. And I mean in our minds as well as our homes. Last year we inaugurated Ultimate Spring Cleaning—30 days of tasks designed to help [...]

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November 27, 2010Dressing

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Mission Possible [More Weekend Reading]

September 11, 2010Health & Fitness

Still on holiday, but that didn’t stop the Internet from having all kinds of goodness without me. Here are a few tasks for you to work on as we head into Fall… Gain Some Confidence Lifehack.org, like a lot of sites written “by the community,” is a bit hit-or-miss with its stuff. 63 Ways to [...]

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Top 10 Dating Errors and Some Green Things [Links]

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Ultimate Spring Cleaning, Day 30: The Last Toss

April 20, 2010Health & Fitness

Ultimate Spring Cleaning is a 30-day project to clean and declutter not only your house, but your life. Each day you’ll get a housecleaning assignment, an assignment that involves the world around you, and a project to clear your mind. You can start anytime at the Ultimate Spring Cleaning main page. We started Ultimate Spring [...]

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Ultimate Spring Cleaning, Day 29: Be Charitable

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