life choices

The “New Macho”?

September 23, 2010 Living

Newsweek’s recent series of articles describing the “New Macho” appeared on my radar this week, and I can’t say I was impressed. The idea is that we need to “reimagine masculinity” to deal with the pressures men face in our changing world. Men—specifically American men, and judging from the examples, white American men—are in danger […]

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Question Your Gurus

September 20, 2010 Living

This post is inspired by Jon Stewart’s Rally to Restore Sanity, but it’s something I’ve believed for a long time. Sit down, pour yourself a beverage, and ask yourself these hypotheticals: What if you found out that a “fact” you use as the basis of a belief is not a fact at all, but a […]

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10 Ways to Get Off Your Butt

March 4, 2010 Health & Fitness

It’s news, but it’s not news: scientists have found that sitting for long periods of time is bad for your health. While you should just be able to feel that a sedentary lifestyle is the inverse of fitness, now there’s evidence that actual negative changes in your body occur while you’re sitting still. Healthy substances […]

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Do Nice Guys Finish Last?

March 2, 2010 Mating & Dating

“Nice guys finish last.” They say Leo Durocher coined the phrase in reference to a baseball team, but we’ve adopted it as a description of how supposedly respectful, deferential men are pushed aside by women for the “jerks.” And while it’s true that there is a segment of women who live to “fix” damaged guys, […]

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What’s Your Plan?

December 30, 2009 The Total Man

In the media, the new year is the time for resolutions: promises you make to yourself. If you’re like most of us, these promises are ultimately broken, usually before winter turns to spring. I’ve historically done something different: every year, usually on New Year’s Eve itself, I come up with a motto for the coming […]

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How to Enjoy Life More

October 6, 2009 The Total Man

I’m going to leave this very simple. In two bullets of equal importance: Do things you enjoy. Find new things to enjoy. The first point is something we all gravitate to. We all have something we enjoy. Some love sports, others play video games, still others pursue a career that makes them want to get […]

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Match.com Lawsuit Update and the Risks of Going Public

September 25, 2009 Living

A fitting end to National Singles Week is the news (actually a couple of weeks old, mostly because the media kind of whispered it) that Sean McGinn has dropped his lawsuit against Match.com. Citing the “amount of ridicule” he received from “sensationalized media coverage,” McGinn has chosen to recede into the background, presumably with the […]

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Find Your Limiting Behaviors

August 25, 2009 Living

The primary mission of this blog is to help you recognize areas of your life that you’d like to fix or change, and help you change them. What I do run into a lot, though, is the guy who doesn’t want to fix something despite the fact that it’s not getting him where he wants […]

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