life choices

Actions Do Speak Louder Than Words

August 21, 2009 Living

Some food for thought: accomplishments will make you far more confident than positive affirmations. Although I’ve given you this link in the past, I thought it’s a study that makes an important point: if you’re down on yourself, simply telling yourself “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggone it, people like me” may not […]

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The Secret Life of Nice Guys

August 5, 2009 Living

I want to take the discussion in a serious direction for a minute. There was an awful piece of news on the wire today: a man walked into a ladies’ fitness class and started randomly shooting. He killed three women and injured many others before killing himself. The media quickly found an online diary that […]

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How to Be a Man

July 15, 2009 Living

George, we’re men here. And I’ll tell you what the hard part is: starting up. Standing up. Breaking free of this bullshit, this enslavement to some guy, cause he’s got the upper hand. —Dave Moss, Glengarry Glen Ross All men’s miseries derive from not being able to sit in a quiet room alone. —Blaise Pascal […]

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That One Special Girl

June 30, 2009 Mating & Dating

Over and over, in advice columns across the country and around the world, the same question is asked: There’s this girl I know from school/work/next door/a friend of a friend. She’s cute, funny, and just my type. Although I’ve known her for weeks/months/years, we’ve never done much more than chit-chat and occasionally hang out but […]

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The Lawsuit and What to Expect From Dating

June 16, 2009 Mating & Dating

The Internet is abuzz – abuzz, I tell you! – after one Sean McGinn didn’t get enough responses from women through and decided to literally make a Federal case out of it. His lawyers’ claim is that the policy of allowing everyone to make their profiles public, while not allowing contact unless both […]

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Attracting Better Women, and The Myth of “Up-dating”

June 15, 2009 Mating & Dating

You’ve been looking all over the Web, in bookstores and on TV for a way to meet and attract great women. Hot chicks. Babes. And what you’re finding is real-life stories of ordinary guys (or worse than ordinary) who have become girl magnets. The entire book The Game is the story of a geeky writer […]

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22 Tips to Jumpstart Your Life

April 8, 2009 Living

So you’ve realized you need to make some changes and really get something going in your life. That’s awesome. But where do you start? The easy answer is “anywhere,” but many of us really have trouble committing to four or five things that can really help move us in the right direction. And a lot […]

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Why You’re Single and Unhappy

March 24, 2009 Mating & Dating

Right now let’s address the unhappiness, because you’ll find being happy resolves many of your problems with being single. You don’t enjoy the process of life. We live in a very results-oriented world, at least here in the U.S. It could be argued that the entire economic downturn we’re facing is due to people looking […]

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